It Was Right… Until It Wasn’t (Now What?)
A Big Truth About Letting Go, Growth, and What’s Next
Have you ever caught yourself staring at your job… your relationship… your life path… thinking:
“This used to feel so right. So why does it feel so… off now?”
Maybe it was your dream career… until the spark quietly faded.
Maybe it was a relationship you were all in for… until it started feeling like a cage.
Maybe it was a life chapter you felt so sure about… until your soul whispered,
“This doesn’t fit anymore.”
And then comes the sneaky thought — the one that keeps so many women stuck:
That the right people, roles, and paths should always stay right.
That if you were truly aligned, you’d never outgrow them.
Here’s the truth (the part nobody teaches us early on):
Growth means outgrowing.
Alignment shifts.
What served you once… might be exactly what’s blocking you now.
And when you stop clinging —you create space for your next, richer season of life.
Of course. . . because you’re a high-achieving, big-hearted woman who knows how to make things work, your next thought is probably:
“Wait… am I just being ungrateful? Am I sabotaging? What’s wrong with me?”
But you don’t need me to tell you that — nothing is wrong with you.
That you’re not broken, flaky, albiet a little confused.
You’re just evolving, darling . . .
And this post? It’s here to help you make sense of that confusion and restlessness — to show you why life feels heavy when you resist transitions… and how learning to trust life’s timing (instead of forcing it) will change everything.
Ready? Lets dig in . . .
Here’s what I’m covering —(You can click below to jump to any section)
Why We Fall For This Myth (You’re Not Crazy, You’re Conditioned)
Of course you’ve bought into this — it makes total sense.
We live in a world that worships consistency, loyalty, and sticking it out — especially for women.
You get praised for being dependable, steady, “the glue that holds it all together.”
You’re told to “build your forever life,” “find your forever people,” “follow the plan.”
We celebrate beginnings — the job offer, the engagement, the shiny new chapter.
But endings? Crickets.
No one teaches us how to gracefully outgrow things.
No one normalizes soul pivots.
We don’t talk about how things that once felt so good can start to feel heavy — not because you failed, but because you grew.
And social media? That’s a whole other story…
Your feed is full of highlight reels from people who seem to have their lives perfectly locked in forever.
So when you feel unsettled, restless, ready for something more… of course it messes with your head.
So let me say what most people won’t:
You’re not failing because you’ve outgrown what used to feel right.
You’re evolving.
And there’s nothing wrong with that . . .
How This Myth Is Keeping You Small (Even When You Look “Successful”)
Here’s where this myth quietly keeps women stuck:
✔️ Staying too long in chapters that have clearly expired.
✔️ Pouring energy into relationships you’ve outgrown, just because you’re scared of the void.
✔️ Staying in roles, cities, or dynamics that suffocate you, because “it used to feel right.”
Sound familiar?
I see it all the time — in my own life, and in my clients’.
I’ve felt it during my own pivots. I’ve witnessed clients knowing something’s off, but delaying the shift because… “what if I regret it?”
✔️ Women stuck in careers that now feel like cages.
✔️ Holding onto friendships out of guilt, even when the connection has withered.
✔️ Staying in lives they’ve outgrown simply because of the time, energy, or money already invested.
And what happens?
The spark dims.
The joy fades.
Your body whispers… or sometimes screams… that something’s off.
And still… you stay. You overthink. You gaslight yourself into “making it work.”
But here’s the bold truth:
You don’t owe permanence to a past version of you.
You owe devotion to the becoming that’s unfolding now.
And honestly? That changes everything.
The Bigger Truth: Life Moves in Seasons. And So Do You.
What I know after a decade of inner work is this. . .
Life is always asking you to expand. To evolve. To let go. To receive new seasons.
Sometimes… you’ll outgrow people.
Sometimes… you’ll leave behind goals that once lit you up.
Sometimes… you’ll pivot in your career, your identity, your dreams — more than once.
And it’s not failure. It’s life moving through you.
The more you embrace this, the more life opens up.
The less you force, the more ease you feel.
The less you grip, the more freedom you experience.
I’ve lived it — walking away from jobs, relationships, “shoulds” I thought were my forever.
And every time, life expanded in ways I couldn’t have predicted.
So… What Do You Do When Life Stops Feeling Aligned?
If you’ve been feeling that quiet restlessness… the knowing that something’s off… here’s what I invite you to do:
👉 Stop making your discomfort wrong.
Ask: Am I staying because it’s right… or because I’m afraid of what’s next?
👉 Get curious about where you’re clinging out of fear — versus staying from love.
Where are you gripping, performing, or being “loyal” at your own expense?
👉 Let yourself imagine… what if something more expansive is waiting for me?
Tune into the version of you that’s trying to emerge. What does she want?
This is exactly the space I create with my clients.
No “burn it all down” dramatics.
No identity crisis theatre.
Just real conversations… honest reflection… reconnecting you to your calm, clear, deeply aligned self — so you can lead yourself through transitions without feeling like you’re falling apart.
Because here’s the thing:
Truth doesn’t scream. It whispers.
And you can’t hear it when life is too loud.
You don’t need more noise.
You need space to come back to you.
This Is What Coaching with Me Looks Like
Women come to me in the “what used to work… doesn’t work anymore” season.
Not broken. Not lost. Just… in between.
In between the life they built… and the life they secretly crave.
In between who they’ve been… and who they’re becoming.
Inside our work, they:
✨ Reconnect with who they really are — underneath the titles, expectations, and pressure.
✨ Release what no longer serves — the roles, relationships, and routines draining their spark.
✨ Start making bold, soul-aligned decisions — from calm and clarity, not fear.
And the ripple effect?
They stop chasing the “right” life…
And start living their real life — fully, authentically, on their terms.
Because when you stop shrinking to fit a life you’ve outgrown — you finally step into the version of you that feels most alive.
And In Case You’re Wondering… “But What If I Regret Letting Go?”
Ahhh… this one comes up every time. It’s human.
But:
You’re more likely to regret staying too long in places you’ve outgrown . . .
. . . than you are to regret choosing yourself and your growth.
I’ve never heard a woman say,
“I wish I’d stayed longer in that stuck, drained version of myself.”
But I’ve heard this countless times:
“I wish I’d trusted myself sooner.”
No one regrets choosing freedom.
They regret choosing fear.
Final Takeaway
You are meant to change.
Your life is meant to evolve.
You are not failing — you are waking up.
The more you trust life’s cycles, the lighter it feels.
The less you cling, the more aligned people, opportunities, and joy find you.
You are allowed to change.
You are allowed to walk away from what felt perfect… and toward what feels true now.
And if you’ve been wondering, “Am I the only one feeling like this?”
You’re not.
ᥫ᭡ This is self-realization.
ᥫ᭡ This is soul growth.
ᥫ᭡ This is the work of a fully alive life.
And you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Ready for the Next Aligned Chapter?
If this stirred something in you… if you’re smack in the “something’s gotta shift” season . . .
I’d love to support you.
My private 1:1 coaching is for women ready to stop forcing life to fit… and start building a life that finally feels like them.
Whenever you’re ready, you can book a 30-min Complimentary Get Real Call with me — no pressure, no performance — just a real conversation about where you are and what’s calling you forward.
👉 CLICK HERE To Book Your 30-min Complimentary “GET REAL” Call
Let’s find out what’s ready to fall away…
…and what’s ready to rise.
Much love ᥫ᭡
