I’ve Tried Coaching Before and didn’t get what I hoped for… How Do I Know This Will Be Different?

Written By Roxy Ahmed-Suarez

“I’ve invested in coaching before and didn’t get what I hoped for… how do I know this will be different?”


If you’re reading this, there’s a good chance you’re wondering the same thing.

And honestly? It makes total sense.

Many of the women I work with have done a lot of inner work. Therapy, books, courses, coaching, retreats—you name it.

They’ve journaled, meditated, mindset-shifted, and vision-boarded their hearts out… and yet something still feels off.

Not because they’re doing it “wrong”—but because what they actually need isn’t more tools.

They’ve already poured time, energy, and money into personal development. So when they’re considering another investment in themselves, they’re asking (rightly so):

Will this actually work for me?

Let’s talk about it.

So in this post —I’m going to walk you through what makes this experience different, how you’ll know it’s working (even early on), and why the kind of results we create don’t show up in neat little checkboxes—but as real, lasting change that starts inside and radiates out.

Sooooo if that’s been swirling in your mind, keep reading. Especially if you're skeptical. That’s totally fair. And totally welcome here.


Ok let’s get into it . . .

The Experiential Perspective – “You’ll Feel It Before You See It”

The most powerful transformations don’t usually arrive with fireworks—they begin quietly.

Most women I work with start feeling the shift in our very first few sessions. It’s not always loud or dramatic. In fact, it’s often subtle—but powerful.


You might notice:

  • A deeper exhale of a breath you didn’t even realize you were holding

  • A clearer decision made from trust instead of fear

  • A sense of calm in a place that used to feel like chaos central

  • A subtle release of something you’ve been holding onto for years —without even knowing it

That’s what this work is about.

You don’t have to be waiting for six months to finally feel different. It’s about experiencing a new way of being—right away—and letting it unfold naturally from the inside out.

Because this isn’t surface-level work. It’s soul-level. And when you meet yourself there? Things begin to shift fast.

Sooooo... you might not have dramatic, movie-montage-level results in week one—but you will feel something. A softening. A new lens. A breath of relief. And that feeling? That’s the beginning of real transformation.

And from there? Everything else unfolds.

The Real Talk Lens – “You Can’t Think Your Way to Wholeness”

Here’s the real talk.

So much of the personal development world—and so many coaching programs—are built on performance. More tools, more hacks, more strategies to help you “optimize.” And for certain seasons of life? Sure, that can be helpful.

And chances are, most coaching you’ve experienced leaned hard into structure. And hey—structure has its place.

But when you’re burnt out, disillusioned, overwhelmed, or feeling trapped in a version of success that doesn’t actually feel good and has you questioning your purpose? Another checklist isn’t going to cut it.

You don’t need someone to tell you to hustle harder, think more positively, or visualize a better morning routine.

You don’t need to do more. You need to reconnect with the you beneath the doing.

What you need is space—mental, emotional… and sometimes, yes, even physical.

But more than that, you need to feel into the space. The expanse. The stillness.

The spaciousness of you . . .

The quiet between all the noise that’s been crowding your energy, pulling your focus, and leaving you feeling disconnected.

—The space of your presence. Your beingness. Your stillness.
—That’s where clarity lives. That’s where freedom breathes.
—That’s where the fog begins to lift.

My coaching doesn’t live at the surface. I’m not here to teach you how to manage the pressure—I’m here to help you release it.

Not by bypassing it or slapping a “good vibes only” sticker on it… but by guiding you into the deeper truth of who you are.

That truth doesn’t need to be fixed. It needs to be remembered . . .

In my Hustle Detox philosophy, we don’t push or perform our way into growth.
We pause. We listen.
We shed the layers that were never really ours to begin with.

This work is about remembering—not striving. It’s intuitive, non-linear, and totally grounded in your natural rhythm.

This isn’t about becoming a shinier version of your ego. It’s about reconnecting with the infinite, wise, grounded version of you that’s already within.

And that can’t be accessed through force. Only through presence.

So—no darling, I don’t hand you a script to follow. I walk beside you as you remember your truth.

As you release what’s no longer aligned. As you expand into a way of living that actually feels like yours.

Why This Time Is Different – “This Isn’t Coaching As You’ve Known It”

Because I’m not here to give you more pressure.

I’m here to help you unlearn it.

This isn’t about affirmations or “just think positive” mantras.

It’s about recognizing all the places where you’ve handed your power away—to expectations, roles, systems, and stories—and reclaiming it, piece by piece.

This is different because it doesn’t ask you to perform.
It invites you to return.

It’s not one-size-fits-all. It’s not a script or a program you have to contort yourself into.

It’s a space we co-create—one that meets you where you are, honors what’s real, and unfolds in a way that actually feels good to your system.

You know, like a soft exhale instead of a tight, “I’ll just push through it” smile.

If you’ve worked with a coach before and walked away feeling like it didn’t quite “land,” that doesn’t mean you failed.

It likely means the coaching model wasn’t aligned with where you were on your journey . . .

Most coaching is future-focused—centered around outcomes, goals, and getting from A to B as efficiently as possible.

But what if the real issue isn’t about getting to “B”?
What if it’s about remembering who you are at “A”?

That’s what this work does.

— We’re not here to fix you.
— We’re not trying to improve your “output.”
— We’re here to help you remember who you are when you stop outsourcing your worth, energy, and power to everything and everyone around you.

What makes this work different is that it’s not linear.
It’s not formulaic.
It’s not about efforting your way into a shinier identity.

It’s about allowing a deeper version of you to emerge—organically, intuitively—through truth, self-awareness, presence, and trust.

This isn’t the kind of mindset coaching that’s about pushing through or performing your healing. (No thanks!)

It’s not about “manifesting harder” or striving to become someone new.

It’s about reconnecting with who you already are… underneath all the noise, beyond the expectations, beneath the conditioning.

*I only work with clients who feel a genuine resonance with this approach. Not because I’m trying to be exclusive—but because mutual alignment matters.

I don’t offer quick-fix programs because I don’t believe in surface-level solutions.

Real, embodied transformation takes time—not because you’re broken, but because untangling years of conditioning and reclaiming your energy from the grind isn’t something you rush through in a weekend workshop.

I offer a minimum 3-month container—not to “lock you in”—but to give this work the breathing room it actually needs to unfold.

To give you the time and space to drop into the work meaningfully . . .

To slow down . . .
To listen inward . . .
To integrate—not just mentally, but emotionally, energetically, and somatically . . .

Because the results we’re creating?
They’re not performative.
They’re real.

And real shifts take space.

This container isn’t about pressure—it’s about presence.

It’s about building a foundation for a different way of living—one rooted in truth and alignment.

From there, you’re always welcome to continue, if it feels right . . .

But you’ll do so from a place of empowered choice—not dependency.

PSSST! — I’m quite selective about who I work with. Not because I think I’m some miracle worker with a velvet rope—but because this work requires presence, honesty, and a real willingness to show up.

Not everyone’s ready for that. And that’s OK.

But I have no interest in wasting your time—or mine—if you’re not truly in it.

And that is also what working differently looks like . . .

You Might Also Be Wondering . . .

“But I’ve Been Disappointed Before…”


I feel your skepticism and disappointment in this regard—because I’ve been there.

When you’ve tried other coaching programs that left you feeling underwhelmed, unseen, or like you had to perform just to feel like you were getting your money’s worth—it’s completely natural to wonder, “What if this is just more of the same?”

If you’ve poured time, energy, and money into coaching containers and didn’t feel the return?
You’re not wrong to hesitate.

And here’s what I want to say to you...

I’m not here to sell you a dream.
I’m here to create a space for your truth.

And the truth? Doesn’t always show up in bullet points or Instagram-worthy wins.

  • Sometimes, it looks like crying in session after finally speaking what’s been unspoken for years.

  • Sometimes, it looks like not hustling through your healing for once.

  • Sometimes, it looks like quietly, steadily remembering that you already have everything you’ve been chasing.

My Hustle Detox framework is more of a philosophy than a step-by-step method. It’s intuitive. It’s deep. And it honors your unique rhythm.

We don’t rush...
We don’t hustle...

Instead, we pause.
We breathe.
We listen.

That’s why it works.

*Because it’s not about fixing you—it’s about freeing you.

Maybe You’re Not Starting Over—Maybe You’re Starting From Where You Are…

You’ve evolved. You’ve grown. You’re not the same person you were when you last tried coaching.

And maybe those past experiences weren’t “wrong”—maybe they were stepping stones that led you here.

If something in this resonates with you… trust that.

It’s not my job to convince you. It’s my job to reflect what’s already rising in you.

You’re allowed to take your time.
To feel your way into this.
To say yes when it’s a full-body yes.

Because you’re asking different questions now . . .
You’ve grown. You’ve shifted.
Maybe, just maybe… this time, you’re ready to meet yourself at a deeper level.

And only you can know if this space is right for you . . .

This work is about learning to trust yourself again—really trust yourself.
Not just with decisions, but with your life.

That begins the moment you say yes to your own truth… even if it scares you.

This is about making wholehearted decisions—with head and heart in alignment.

And this, darling . . . is an opportunity to learn how to make one.

My job isn’t to persuade you—it’s to offer clarity so you can trust your own knowing.

Your body, your intuition, your deep inner knowing already knows if this space is aligned for you . . .

You may feel a quiet yes. A curiosity. A pull.

That’s worth listening to.

And if there’s hesitation? That’s okay too.

I invite you to explore what that’s about—not to override it, but to understand it.
— Is it fear?
— Is it past disappointment?
— Is it the part of you that’s tired of being let down by false promises?

Whatever’s there—bring it.

All of you is welcome here, darling . . .

Ready to Explore What’s Possible?

If this work speaks to something deep in you—

If you’re feeling the pull toward a different way of living—

One that’s less about proving and more about being...

I invite you into a real, human-to-human conversation and book a complimentary 30-minute ‘Get Real’ Call with me.

No pressure. No pitch. Just presence.

We’ll explore what’s coming up for you, what you’re craving, and whether this container feels like the right space for your next chapter.

You can ask questions. You can bring your doubts. You can just show up as you are.

This isn’t about fixing you—it’s about freeing you.

And sometimes, it all begins with one honest conversation . . .

💛 Click Here to book your Get Real Call.
 Let’s see what’s possible when you stop trying to do it all on your own—and start honoring the version of you that’s been waiting to lead the way.


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