From Hustling Through Life to Feeling Whole Again — 3 Shifts That Change Everything.
You don’t have to blow it all up to find yourself again. Here’s how real women are doing it differently . . .
Ever feel like you’re all the women at once — career queen, caretaker, emotional rock, soul searcher… and somehow still wondering, “Where the hell am I in all of this?”
You’re not alone. So many high-achieving women — whatever high-achieving looks like or means to you — are quietly carrying the weight of doing it all (and doing it beautifully) while feeling like something’s missing.
All you really want is for it to feel good. Real. Aligned. Yours.
Otherwise, why go through all this self-sacrificing if it doesn’t come with the feels-good factor? (Seriously. Where’s the joy tax refund on that?!)
And that desire? It’s not selfish. It’s sacred. Reconnecting with who you are underneath the hustle, the expectations, and the emotional juggling act is a courageous and powerful goal.
One that will shift everything . . .
Which is why in today’s blog —I want to share a personal reflection with you, darling — part love letter to my younger self, part celebration of every woman I now serve and support in my private coaching practice.
It’s about embracing every version of you — the messy, the magnificent, and everything in between — and remembering that wholeness doesn’t come from doing more. It comes from coming home to yourself.
It’s about the roles we carry, the quiet inner tug to feel more like ourselves, and why it’s not just okay — but necessary — to reclaim your rhythm.
So let’s read on — first, the personal reflection, and then we’ll explore what that actually looks and feels like — and how you can begin to return to you, even in the chaos.
Let’s begin . . .
Here’s what I’m covering —(You can click below to jump to any section)
Personal Reflection: I’m Every Woman” — More Than Just a Song, It’s My Life’s Anthem
So, What Does This Mean for You & The 3 Shifts That Change Everthing
But I’ve worked so hard for this version of my life — what if letting go means I lose what I’ve built?
But how do I know if I’m ready for this kind of work?
I’m Every Woman” — More Than Just a Song, It’s My Life’s Anthem :)
As I get older (and maybe a smidge wiser!), I look back on my journey and the different roles I’ve embodied as a woman. It’s fascinating to see these roles, and how all my choices and decisions (right or wrong ones) within each one, have shaped me into the woman I am today.
Women are beautifully diverse in shape, form, culture, heritage, and mindset, yet there is an essence that unites us all. What is the common thread in our global sisterhood?
During a moment of me-time (ok more like an hour of moments), I was listening to one of my favourite playlists, and “I’m Every Woman” by Chaka Khan started playing which got me feeling all nostalgic and teary-eyed.
Btw, how is it possible to dance and cry at the same time? To feel bittersweet joy in a single moment?
Is that just a Gen X thing, or hormones? Who knows . . .
Anyhoo, back to the song . . .
Now, as I groove to this classic in a different stage of my life, the words resonate differently than they did back in my 20s and 30s.
Life has a funny way of doing that, doesn’t it? A book, a song, a perspective — they all hold different meanings as we accumulate miles on this predictably unpredictable journey of life.
This song isn’t just a catchy tune — it’s loaded with a powerful, more meaningful message than ever.
So much sass and punch! WOW
A Message Packed with Sass and Substance
When Chaka belts out, “I’m every woman, it’s all in me,” it hits me on so many levels . . .
It’s not just about being a superwoman who can do it all (though, we’re pretty fantastic at that), but It’s about embracing every aspect of who we are — daughter, sister, mother, friend, wife, dreamer, warrior — every hat we wear, in no particular order.
The song sings to the strength, versatility, and empowerment essence of a woman.
Its lyrics remind us that as women, we possess the inner power to be anything we choose.
We’re self-sufficient, resilient, and can handle whatever comes our way.
So, as I listen now —I realize it’s telling me that within every woman, we carry the qualities and strength of all women, a universal, collective power.
We’re not limited to one role or identity.
We are complex, multifaceted, and capable of achieving great things — if we dare to look beyond our self-imposed limitations
Roles and Realizations
This brings me back to my earlier point: “I’m every woman” speaks to the various roles we play — daughter, sister, wife, friend, and more.
Each role comes with its unique set of experiences, challenges, and joys.
For example . . .
—as a daughter, a woman learns and inherits wisdom from her elders;
—as a sister, she shares and experiences camaraderie and rivalry;
—as a wife, she experiences partnership with another soul;
—and as a friend, she offers and receives support and love.
And each role comes with its own superpower . . .
—As a daughter, I’ve learned compassion.
—As a sister, I’ve mastered the art of sharing (almost!).
—As a friend, I’ve become a champion listener.
Each has shaped and challenged me, making me more… well, ME.
Of course, balancing these roles isn’t always easy breezy . . .
But life wasn’t meant to be easy. If we remember that these roles are not just societal expectations, but as spaces for growth, learning, and self-expression.
On our individual journeys of self-realization and empowerment, through the choices and decisions we make, and the drama of life challenges and victories we encounter —we find the divine essence in every essence of being a woman and honor the journey within each role.
So, What Does This Mean for You?
This reflection isn’t just my story — it’s a mirror for yours, too.
Because if you’re feeling disconnected from your own joy, purpose, or identity… this is your sign to pause. To reflect. To stop performing and start being again.
And I want you to know: that path home to yourself? It’s available. Right now.
It starts with awareness, deep inner kindness, and a willingness to trust your own rhythm again.
Through my 1:1 coaching (I call it the Hustle Detox™), I help women just like you — high-achieving, big-hearted, soul-searching — move from exhausted high-functioning mode to grounded, calm clarity.
We do this through an intuitive blend of self awareness,mindset shifting, emotional resilience, self-trust building, and purpose reclamation — all designed to help you feel whole… again.
(And yes, without having to move to Bali, renounce all possessions, or start drinking celery juice at sunrise. Unless you want to . . . 😉)
So, let’s briefly explore what that actually looks and feels like — and how you can begin to return to you, even in the chaos.
💫 And if you're curious to dive deeper into how I work with clients inside my 1:1 coaching — including my Hustle Detox™ philosophy — I've written a separate post that unpacks it all.
CLICK HERE to read it when you're ready . . .
But for now, let’s stay right here… and keep going with this post.
✨ SHIFT 1 —See Your Roles as Expressions, Not Expectations
Let’s start here — with all the roles you play: daughter, friend, partner, colleague, caregiver, boss, dreamer… and every one in between.
For many high-achieving women, these roles become silent pressure points. You’re “supposed to” show up perfectly in each of them — and when you don’t, the guilt creeps in like an uninvited guest who just won’t take the hint.
But what if these roles weren’t boxes to fit into — but expressions of your full self?
In my 1:1 coaching, I help women recognize how the pressure to perform can quietly override their personal truth.
We gently peel back the layers of “shoulds,” so you can begin to feel who you are underneath all the obligations.
Through my Hustle Detox™ intuitive coaching framework, we explore how to hold each role with grace — but not let it define you.
Because you are not your roles. You are the woman who brings them to life.
✨ SHIFT 2 —Stop Trying to Be Everything for Everyone
“I’m every woman, it’s all in me…” — sounds powerful, right? And it is.
But sometimes, that line becomes a silent agreement we didn’t mean to sign. One that says:
I have to hold it all. I can’t drop a single ball. I must always be everything, to everyone.
(Translation: put everyone else first, every damn time.)
Sound familiar?
This is often where burnout begins — especially for the brilliant, capable women I coach who are holding up entire teams, families, and expectations on their shoulders like some kind of sparkly, overstretched Atlas.
Inside my 1:1 coaching, we untangle this story. You’ll learn how to reclaim emotional sovereignty — and recognize that you don’t have to hold everything to be worthy of anything.
We slow down the hustle. We listen. And we build self-trust, so you can start honoring what you need . . . instead of constantly morphing into who everyone else needs you to be.
When you shift from self-sacrificing to self-honoring, you begin to move from hustle… to wholeness.
✨ SHIFT 3 —Let Your Spiritual Awakening Be Messy (It’s Meant to Be)
That moment when you crank up a nostalgic song, cry and dance at the same time, and suddenly feel a tidal wave of something rising inside you?
That’s not just hormones. That’s your inner knowing waking up. (Although… shoutout to hormones for keeping things interesting.)
The third shift I help my clients move through is learning to trust these moments. You’re not “too sensitive” or “overthinking.” You’re hearing your inner self again — and she’s got a few things to say . . .
That expanded, infinite deservingness calling out to you? Yeah. That.
In our work together, we explore what it means to be spiritually and emotionally awake in a world that often asks you to numb out.
We reconnect you with your intuition, your rhythm, and your sense of aliveness — the kind that doesn’t need external permission to matter.
*You don’t have to have it all figured out. You just have to be willing to listen.
You Might Be Wondering…
“But I’ve worked so hard for this version of my life — what if letting go means I lose what I’ve built?”
Beautiful question . . .
But here’s the thing: you’re not letting go of your success — you’re letting go of the struggle. Of the pretending. Of the pressure to be everything to everyone.
You’re not giving up your life. You’re just making space for it to feel better.
You’re not losing yourself. You’re finally meeting your true self — and bringing her into everything you do next. You’re finally meeting the version of you who gets to feel successful and free.
It’s not an either / or question —It’s both.
(Because yes, you’re allowed to have nice things and peace of mind. Wild, right?)
Or you may be wondering . . .
“But how do I know if I’m ready for this kind of work?”
You don’t have to be fully ready. You just have to be curious. Because if you’re feeling the nudge — that gentle pull toward something deeper, more grounded, more you — then that’s your sign.
You don’t need to wait for a breakdown to begin your breakthrough.
Even reading this post might’ve stirred something. That’s perfect.
That’s where it begins . . .
Let’s Recap
You are every woman — and every part of you is worthy of love, expression, and care.
When you:
✨ Recognize the roles you’ve been playing
✨ Honor the truth underneath the performance
✨ Reclaim your rhythm and reconnect with your desires
… you return to yourself. And that’s where the magic happens.
Your Next Step . . .
✨ Ready to get clear on the energy you’re bringing into your next chapter?
✨ Ready to reconnect with the woman behind the roles?
✨ Ready to rediscover your rhythm?
If this post made you nod, tear up, or smile (maybe all three — been there!), that’s no accident.
You're in a season of awakening — of becoming darling . . .
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And if what comes up feels like — “Yes, THIS is me — and I’m so ready to go deeper,”
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I’d be honored to walk beside you as you come home to your whole, fully expressed self.
P.S. Did you crank up this classic after reading this post? 😉
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